In Memory of Jeff “Tiny” Bourne

Dear Loyal Readers,

In late 2003, a good friend of mine, Jeff “Tiny” Bourne, passed away, at the all-too-young age of 47. At his funeral, I was asked by his family to give one of the eulogies. Years later, with their blessings, I wrote a story about him, which you’ll see below.

Last night, his daughter, Lexi Bourne, wrote me the following: “Hi Mr. Bacon! [Yes, she still calls me Mr. Bacon] I had shared your blog post about my dad a couple of years ago and it came up on my memories. When I clicked on the link it said, ‘page not found.’ Any way you can send me the article? I love reading it, especially this time of year! Thank you and Merry Christmas to you and your fam!”

Her brother, Brett (“Bubba” to us), agreed. So we decided to run the story again today. I hope it has some of the meaning for you that it does for us.

Happy Holidays, Loyal Readers.

-John

 

After giving us November off, Old Man Winter has decided to come back with a vengeance.  That’s okay.  I like the snow, I can deal with the cold – and I love the hockey.

You can play pond hockey, drop-in hockey or beer league hockey, but for me, the best hockey is the pick-up game at Michigan’s Yost Arena on Tuesday nights.

The game features some of the best players in the area, most of them former Michigan players, many of whom played pro hockey.  It’s by invitation only, and I only got invited because I knew the guy who ran it, Jeff Bourne — more commonly known as “Tiny,” thanks to his 5-6 frame.

Tiny’s dad was Canadian.  So it was only natural, after they moved to Ann Arbor, that he and his younger brother, Roger, grew up playing hockey in the Bourne’s back yard.

Tiny wasn’t a great player, but he loved the game.  Every year, Tiny tried out for the Ann Arbor Pioneer high school team, and every year he got cut.  Every year, that is, until his senior year, when Roger – who was already much bigger and better — was just a freshman, trying out alongside him.

Sure enough, Roger made the team that year.  But so did Tiny.  When they were driving home, Tiny told Roger he knew why the coach finally took him.

Why’s that?

So I can drive you to the rink.

But Tiny didn’t feel slighted.  He was thrilled – thrilled to finally make the team, and thrilled to watch his brother play, even while Tiny rode the bench.  Tiny liked to point out that they were one of the most productive pair of brothers in Pioneer history, totaling 201 points.  Roger got 200 of those, and Tiny added the one.

Roger went on to play at Michigan.  His biggest fan, by far, was his big brother, Tiny.  Well, his little, big brother.

Roger returned the favor by introducing Tiny to Laurie, one of Roger’s classmates. They hit it off immediately.

She said, “You’re just like Roger!”

“No,” Tiny said.  “Roger is just like me!”

They had two kids, Brett and Alexis.  Tiny had a college degree, but he shelved his career plans to make more money working in an auto plant.  He handled their money amazingly well, and set them up in a beautiful home on the outskirts of Ann Arbor.

His passion, though, was hockey.  He coached his son’s teams, he coached his daughter’s teams, and he organized our skates on Tuesday.  And that’s where I got to know him best.

Tiny ran the show.  Most former Michigan players eagerly joined – but just because you were a hot-shot player didn’t mean you automatically got an invitation.  More than a few big names never got a regular spot — and a few nobodies like me, did.

Tiny and I had, on paper, almost nothing in common, from our passports to our politics. Tiny was a Canadian, a rabid Republican, a passionate Pioneer. I am an American, a stubborn independent, a loyal River Rat. But none of that seemed to matter.

The nicest thing Tiny ever said to me, and he said it often, was this: “Bakes, you’re a great guy… for a River Rat!” Amazingly, from Tiny, that meant something to me. Tiny had a way of drawing people to him, and to the game he loved – me included.

Six years ago, between Christmas and New Year’s, Roger was skating the puck down the ice, and Tiny, playing defense for the other team, stopped him cold.  It was a great play.

It was also Tiny’s last play.  He returned to the bench, sat down, and fell forward.  He was just 47 – and he was gone.

At Tiny’s funeral, you’d think it was a service for a famous Red Wing, there were so many people there – from Jeff Daniels and Red Berenson, to Tiny’s teammates at Pioneer to the girls on his daughter’s hockey team, sitting together, wearing their blue jerseys.

Tiny might have loved hockey more than it loved him.  But that never stopped him.  Every year, he got better, and every year, he drew more people to the game.

What did Tiny get out of it?

To answer that question, all you had to do was look around that church.

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-John
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  • Paul Trame December 23, 2016 at 7:56 am

    Wonderful story.
    Are the Tuesday night games still going on?

    Visited your class this Fall. Great enthusiasm/ great class.

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  • Jamie Buhr December 23, 2016 at 8:00 am

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    John,
    What a moving, heart warming, instructive message you have shared with us during what we hope is a joyous Holiday Season for all!! Thanks for all of the insight and entertainment during 2016! All the BEST! Jamie Buhr (Sr.)

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  • Don Farrand December 23, 2016 at 8:03 am

    Message (Required)Thanks for running this article John, Jeff deserves it.
    (I’m Lauri’s Dad)

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  • Judy Guest December 23, 2016 at 8:18 am

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    Dear John,
    What a sweet and gentle note to wake up to this AM. S sad way to go, at 47, but what a great way to go–doing what he loved most. I think of you often and hope to see you and your lovely family again sometime!

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  • Alan Mitchell December 23, 2016 at 8:22 am

    U…how many guys do we know like “Tiny” that serve as inspiration for competitive games and at the same time give back to t communities,families and friends significantly and effectively for free more-so-than athletes making millions to play the same game. God bless Brother Bourne in heaven and his family here on His earth.

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  • Steve Miller December 23, 2016 at 9:32 am

    MessLaurie and I worked together in the late 90s. And, through her, I was introduced to Jeff.
    My very young sons were ready to begin playing hockey, and to help me outfit them, the Bourne’s invited me over to pick through the boxes of Brett and Lexi’s outgrown equipment from the shelves that lined their basement.
    That kindness and generosity was the seed that grew into two wonderful youth and high school careers.
    The discipline, perseverance, and leadership skills the game of hockey taught my sons, now both outstanding young men, will forever be credited to Jeff and Laurie. And for that, I’ll always be grateful to Jeff and his family.

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  • Larry Leach December 23, 2016 at 10:07 am

    Message (Required)What a great article about Tiny Bourne and what a wonderful role he played in Michigan Hockey. Was Al Renfrew involved in his Tuesday night games? The young men that have been a part of the Michigan Hockey tradition have added their many talents to our world in such a wonderful and positive way. Experiencing the game with the coaching of Red Berenson has got to be a highlight of their lives. Thanks so much for all your dedication to the Victor’s Valiant, John U. Bacon!

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  • Yale Van Dyne December 23, 2016 at 11:19 am

    JUB,

    Wow! What a tribute, from a great guy to a great guy and his family! Touching!

    Thanks for sharing!

    Happy Holidays!

    YVD

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  • Dr Ed Kornblue December 23, 2016 at 1:32 pm

    A beautiful story, about a beautiful person, told in the most beautiful way.
    John, you were fortunate to grow up in “old Ann Arbor”, and to partake in the old hockey days with “Tiny”
    at the helm.
    Go Blue!

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  • Tom Woolsey December 23, 2016 at 4:35 pm

    What a wonderful human being.i had the pleasure of coaching with Jeff He displayed life through hockey not only to my daughters and all his players but even to us coaches. My daughters will always remember his life’s lessons through hockey, and I believe it molded their character They often remind my wife and I that their closest and best friends are from the game, and I whole heartedly agree. His legacy lives on through his wonderful family.

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  • Frank Wilhelme December 23, 2016 at 5:15 pm

    Thank you for sharing these wonderful memories of Jeff. It’s great to have your recollections to add to my personal memories of this truly great guy!

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  • Mary Lou Erber December 23, 2016 at 6:06 pm

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    Jeff and his family sat next to us at Michigan hockey games. He was responsible for getting my boys into hockey and my son’s first AAHA coat was a hand me down from Lexi or Brett. Very generous man.

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  • Lionel Guerra December 23, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    What a great story!! I worked for Vaughn Bourne and knew Jeff and Roger very well!! Thank you for the story! It’s been almost 40 years……….

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  • Tina & Bob Ferguson December 23, 2016 at 6:59 pm

    What a wonderful article about my cousin Jeff, well said! His Canadian roots came thru for his love of hockey. We miss and think of Jeff always, Tina & Bob Ferguson

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  • Dan Gilliland March 22, 2017 at 3:11 am

    Hey John U, what’s lovely tribute to a great guy! Laura Farrand worked for me as a dental assistant, both before and after she and Jeff were married. They were both excellent people to be around. And I do remember Jeff’s passion for hockey! So sad to see a fine young person’s life cut short at such a young age!

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